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Dangerous Dames: Women who write Horror

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I’m posting this article here for my dear readers. I was surprised to discover I was mentioned in the article. What an honour! Enjoy!!

Dangerous Dames: Women Who Write Horror

Dangerous Dames: Women Who Write Horror

I started writing seriously in high school after reading several of Stephen King’s novels; I got hooked on horror at the tender age of twelve when an aunt gave me a copy of Cujo. I’ve been reading Stephen King’s books ever since. Growing up during the 1980s, I noticed there weren’t very may women writing scary stories. Inspired, I set out to change that. Why should men have all the fun, writing frightfully good fiction? After all, women are highly attuned to emotions — clearly capable of delivering subtle scares, as well as visceral visions that linger long after the reader turns the final page.

Horror is such a primal emotion. Humans have always endured dread — it’s enmeshed in our subconscious — the very essence of our being. Countless stories have been told about what scares us; an innumerable amount await.

When I first submitted my stories for publication, I encountered lots of rejection. Uncertain if this was because I was a woman, or due to the fact I was new to the genre, I eschewed self-doubt and quickly progressed from form rejection letters to the inclusion of personal comments, which proved quite useful. Fears unfounded. As the submission process evolved from via snail mail — don’t forget to include a SASE — to email, and ultimately Submittable, I grew bolder, grateful for Editors’ comments and fresh perspective, which enabled me to grow as a writer and submit my work to another market, where it was usually accepted.

After several stories found homes in various magazines, I challenged myself to send stories to anthologies and have been published in several. Such an honor when Editor Billie Sue Mosiman invited me to submit a story to Fright Mare, an all-female author anthology published in 2016, that featured stories by: Nina Kiriki Hoffman, Elizabeth Massie, Kathryn Ptacek, Loren Rhoads, Lucy Taylor, just to name a few. Twenty authors in all. It’s a fantastic compilation that demonstrates that women can write frightfully-good fiction!

As a female horror author, several male authors have asked how I manage to write men so well. They’re curious about my process for capturing different nuances and mannerisms. My answer is shockingly simple: I write from experience — the men in my life, past and present provide ample inspiration for my characters. Over the years, I’ve based male characters in my novellas and stories on co-workers, ex-boyfriends, or family. No man that crosses my path is safe from scrutiny.

Whether it’s his piercing blue eyes, the scuff of his beard when he kisses me, or the quiet desperation of a homeless man camped out on the sidewalk in front of his cardboard condo, rattling— clink, clink, clink — a dark, blue paper cup full of grimy change and crumpled dollar bills that says, IT’S OUR PLEASURE TO SERVE YOU in wavy, white letters that rise like steam, I’m always focused on minute details. A casual passerby that interests me starts out as a character sketch in a little, red notebook I carry with me everywhere, and if he’s interesting enough, I’ll flesh him out and work him into my latest novella or story.

I’ve been a published horror author for over twenty-five years, and while I’ve had my fair share of successes, there have been a few daunting experiences, too. I despise the misconception that only men can write effective horror. During the mid-1990s, when I started to attend conventions, I was one of a handful female horror authors there, part of a vast minority. We women banded together, seeking camaraderie.

When I first started out, I felt a bit intimidated by all of the male horror authors gathered together. I had male horror authors come up to me and ask, “Who are you here with? Where’s your boyfriend?” I would muster up some courage and say, “I’m here promoting my work. Come check out my reading at 3:00 p.m.” And some of those guys would show up and admit afterward that I’d managed to scare them.

The horror genre is a bit of a boy’s club, no doubt about it. The odds are stacked against female authors, but creative, ambitious women will always find a way to run with the boys. Besides me, over five hundred successful horror authors come to mind: Megan Abbott, Maria Abrams, Danielle Ackley-McPhail, Linda Addison, Erin Al-Mehairi, Ania Ahlborn, Christy Aldridge, Viotlet Allen, C.S. Alleyne, Scarlett R. Algee, Scarlett Amaris, Gemma Amor, Meghan Arcuri, Kristen Arnett Margaret Atwood, Carmen Baca, Eugen Bacon, Suzanne Baginskie, Patty Barrué, Meghan Ball, Zuzanne Belec, Nico Bell, Jennifer Bernardini, Carina Marie Bissett, T.L. Bodine, Ava Black, Joanna Ho Bradshaw, Oyinkan Braithwaite, Theresa Braun, Jennifer Brody, N.M. Brown, Tiffany Michelle Brown, Jennifer Brozek, Nadia Bulkin, Liz Butcher, Chesya Burke, R.A. Busby, P. D. Cacek, Shelly Campbell, Somer Canon, Tracy Carbone, Ann Dávila Cardinal, Christa Carmen, Elsa Carruthers, Clare Castleberry, V. Castro, Catherine Cavendish, Autumn Christian, Zen Cho, Jennifer Preston Chushcoff, Kristin Cleaveland, Donyae Coles, Jen Conley, S.H. Cooper, Tracy Cross, Jennifer Crow, Elizabeth Crowens, Nicole Cushing, Nina D’Arcangela, M. Lopes da Silva, Victoria Dalpe, Chelsea Davis, Randee Dawn, Sandy DeLuca, Kristi DeMeester, A.K. Dennis, Shawnna Deresch, Amanda Desiree, M.M. De Voe, Theresa Derwin, Ellie Douglas, Tananarive Due, H.B. Diaz, Denise Dumars, Sarah Duck-Mayr, Megan Jauregui Eccles, Inna Effress, Tori Eldridge, Meg Elison, Stephanie Ellis, Kelly Evans, Destiny Eve, Tracy Fahey, Gabrielle Faust, Alyson Faye, Epiphany Farrell, Kelly Florence, Geneve Flynn, Gillian Flynn, Dona Fox, Sara Gran, Graylin Fox, Lara Frater, Fran Friel, Laura Frost, Doungjai Gam, Holly Rae Garcia, Rhonda J. Garcia, Cate Gardner, Kristin Garth, Lisa Garvey, Fiona Maeve Geist, Christine M. Germain, Emma J. Gibbon, Megan Giddings, Jill Girardi, Sephera Giron, Larissa Glasser, Elana Gomel, Jewelle Gomez, Jennifer Anne Gordon, Courtney Gould, Misha Green, April Grey, K.C. Grifant, Taylor Grothe, D.M. Guay, Jessica Guess, Carol Gyzander, Meg Hafdahl, Polly Hall, Elizabeth Hand, Eve Harms, Rachel Harrison, Meghan Hart, Rachel Sadie Hartmann, Maria Haskins, Shannah Heath, Wendy Heard, Alexandra Heller-Nicholas, Nicole Henneman, Christina Henry, Karen Heuler, Laurel Hightower, Alicia Hilton, Rowan Hill, Jennifer Hillier, Nancy Holder, Kat Howard, Claire C. Holland, Emily Hughes, D.K. Hundt, June Hur, Tonya Hurley, Natalie Ironside, Vanessa Jae, Ruthann Jagge, Serena Jayne, Kenzie Jennings, Miranda Jewess, Heddy Johannesen, Carole Johnstone, B.F. Jones, Lisa Jones, Rhonda Jackson Joseph, Mona Kabbani, Magda Kaluzynska, Jo Kaplan, Alma Katsu, Laura Keating, Erinn Kemper, Caroline Kepnes, Cassandra Khaw, Nancy Kilpatrick, Gwendolyn Kiste, E.V. Knight, Gini Koch, K.H. Koehler, Kathe Koja, Samantha Kolesnik, Stevie Kopas, Jean Hanff Korelitz, Barbara Krasnoff, Naomi Kritzer, Monica Kuebler, Debbie Kuhn, K.P. Kulski, Laura Kurtz, Nicole Givens Kurtz, Carrie Laben, Red Lagoe, N.R. Lambert, Angela LaManna, Charie D. LaMarr, Jess Landry, Michelle Lane, Sarah Langan, Marie Lanza, Tara Laskowski, Estelle Laure, Shannon Lawrence, Deborah LeBlanc, Heather Levy, Beverley Lee, Ginger Lee, Lindsay Lerman, Susanne Leist, Tonya Liburd, Patricia Lillie, Livia Llewellyn, Lori Lopez, Erin Louis, Lynn Love, Leslie Lutz, Donna Lynch, Sian MacArthur, Carmen Maria Machado, L.L. Madrid, Katie Manning, Caitlin Marceau, Chris Marrs, Gretchen Felker-Martin, Rena Mason, Laura Mauro, Catherine McCarthy, J.A.W. McCarthy, Angel Leigh McCoy, Kathryn E. McGee, Seanan McGuire, Jessica McHugh, Mandy McHugh, Claire McKenna, Angel McCoy, Jennifer McMahon, Lauren McMenemy, Gale Meadows, Maryse Meijer, Claudette Melanson, Melissa Mendelson, Helen Merrick, Toni Miller, Renee Miller, S.P. Miskowski, Villimey Mist, Archita Mittra, Carole Ann Moleti, Hillary Monahan, J.H. Moncrieff, Sarah Moorhead, Silvia Moreno-Garcia, Briana Morgan, Christine Morgan, Tiff Morris, Laura Morrison, Lisa Morton, J. Motoki, Cheryl Mullenax, Amy-Jean Muller, Allison Mulvihill, Iseult Murphy, Ksenia Murray, Lee Murray, Mae Murray, Ilana C. Myer, Natasha Nafrini, Fergal F. Nally, Victoria Nations, Annie Neugebauer, Mari Ness, T.J. Newman, Heidi Nickerson, Thana Niveau, Christi Nogle, Columbkill Noonan, Rachel Nussbaum, Joyce Carol Oates, Ihuoma Ofordire, Nnedi Okorafor, Nuzo Onoh, Mallory O’Meara, Cindy O’Quinn, Marie O’Regan, Kelli Owen, Kathy Palm, Adele Park, Ash Parsons, Joanna Parypinski, Alison Peirse, Cynthia (Cina) Pelayo, Mocha Pennington, Jessica Peter, Kate Reed Petty, Lydia Peever, Sarah Pinborough, Sarah Pinsker, Janine Pipe, Hailey Piper, Charlotte Platt, Molly Pohlig, Dea Poirier, Cherie Priest, Lydia Prime, Lisa Quigley, Monique Quintana, Stephanie Rabig, Mary Rajotte, Gina Ranalli, Tonia Ransom, Tina Rath, Sarah Read, Paula R. C. Readman, Dixon Reuel, Kelly Robinson, Zin E. Rocklyn, Marsheila Rockwell, Betty Rocksteady, Eva Roslin, Eden Royce, Sian Rosé, Diana Rowland, Karen Runge, Erica Ruppert, Lindy Ryan, Sumiko Saulson, Veronica Schanoes, Kristi Petersen Schoonover, Cat Scully, Barrington Smith-Seetachitt, Ali Seay, Lora Senf, Priya Sharma, Deborah Sheldon, Natashia Sinclar, Jennifer Soucy, Yolanda Sfetsos, Katherine Silva, Hildy Silverman, Marge Simon, Natasha Sinclair, Angela Slatter, Zhanna Slor, Angela Yuriko Smith, Farah Rose Smith, Christina Sng, J. Snow, Lucy A. Snyder, Monique Snyman, Jennifer Soucy, Jessica L. Sparrow, Zoje Stage, Caitlin Starling, Jessica Stevens, Jan Stinchcomb, Roni Stinger, J.A. Sullivan, Madeleine Swann, Morgan Sylvia, Angela Sylvaine, Mitzi Szereto, Anna Taborska, Denise N. Tapscott, Sonora Taylor, Sara Tantlinger, Cassandra L. Thompson, Brenda S. Tolian, Gaby Triana, Dani Trussoni, Ash Tudor, Elle Turpitt, Mary Turzillo, Tlotlo Tsamaase, Lisa Tuttle, Cameron Ulam, Gina Urso, Genevieve Valentine, Emily Verona, L.C. von Hessen, Roxie Voorhees, Damien Angelica Walters, Wendy N. Wagner, Holly Walrarth, Colleen Wanglund, Holly Lyn Walrath, Antonia Rachel Ward, Catriona Ward, Kyla Lee Ward, Kaaron Warren, Erica Waters, Vera West, Kimberly White, Sheri White, Tara Stillions Whitehead, Marie Whittaker, Hannah Whitten, Leslie Wibberley, Monica Wilcox, Fran Wilde, Emma-Claire Wilson, Mehitobel Wilson, Nicole Willson, Cassondra Windwalker, A.C. Wise, Kimberly White, Christa Wojciechowski, Nicole Wolverton, L. Marie Wood, T.L. Wood, Alex Woodroe, Stephanie M. Wytovich, Chelsea Quinn Yarbro, Lou Yardley, Mercedes M. Yardley, Pauline Yates, Joy Yehle, and Jessica Ann York.

I’ve gotten to know many of these lovely ladies at various conventions and also on Twitter. I’ve noticed that we have several personality traits in common: We’re all extremely ambitious and self-assured — we’re not afraid to speak our minds — we’re also very outgoing and savvy.

At StokerCon™, in historic Providence, Rhode Island, I had the pleasure of speaking on a panel comprised solely of female horror authors. In addition to myself, panelists included Meghan Arcuri, Mary Ann Back, April Grey, andElizabeth Massie. We packed the room and had a lively discussion about the trials and tribulations of not only how we survive in the male-dominated horror genre, but how we manage to thrive! Our legions are growing — we know no bounds…”

I am so proud to be a part of this!!

Come on girls, sharpen your pencils and voodoo quills. You’ve got work to do!

 

https://crimsonscreams.medium.com/dangerous-dames-women-who-write-horror-daf6dabbade8

 

Blessings, Spiderwitch

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Belief in the Paranormal

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I am a fan of the paranormal, as my blog readers all know. Today I want to post about why I choose to believe in it and how I handle the paranormal occurrences in my life that I have become accustomed to. While I know I have mentioned some odd events around my home, I do believe in also looking first for a rational explanation to explain it.

I just read two interesting articles online about why some people believe more in the paranormal than others. The group of people who believe are more prone to a certain type of cognitive thinking. They may be more intuitive than reflective. The ones who are skeptics are more likely to be more reflective thinkers. The intuitive thinkers go more with their gut feeling and are more likely to believe there is a paranormal explanation for everything. A more reflective thinker will find a logical solution for everything first. This is similar to right brain and left brain thinking.

I manage to achieve both intuitive and reflective thinking. Some could argue that when the cast iron potbellied cauldron fell from my fridge, that it was the fridge’s vibrations that caused it to fall. If that is the explanation of why that occurred, then why didn’t anything else fall from the top of the fridge? But I digress. I had no pet cat at the time nor mice. No mouse could make that cauldron fall due to the cauldron’s weight. That would be some remarkable feat on the mouse’s part. I know it seems boring and counterproductive to my blog to include such analysis but it is still necessary. Remembering to be a bit analytical while still enjoying the paranormal can actually enhance your experience of the paranormal because you can be freer to enjoy it. If a draft blows into a room, it may not be a cold spot. There might be a door or window left open that blew in a breeze. So remember to use common sense when first looking for an explanation of why something happened.

There are many skeptics who are out to debunk the existence of Bigfoot or explain away out of body experiences. I say let them be. They are just as entitled to their beliefs and views as we all are. They have the right to criticize and analyze everything as we have the right to Ouija boards. Science seeks an explanation to everything. Science might just come up with some excellent arguments and amazing ideas on things. There has to be a balance between science and intuition. I think science is changing and becoming more accepting of life after death with the invention of Kirlian photography. They believe they can now capture the spirit leaving the body after death with the use of Kirlian photography. Power to them. I would love to see that.

I also believe that some people seek a paranormal explanation for EVERYTHING that happens. I mean everything. This is not healthy. This is a tad obsessive. I see this all the time on paranormal Facebook groups. I do love the world of the supernatural but I am not super obsessed about it. I obviously love it or I would not be writing this blog. But I just still believe in being practical to a certain degree. We are all capable of being rational and intuitive. Some use one more than the other. It is important to maintain some objectivity.

On the other hand, I still hear sounds that my rational mind makes herculean effort to explain. This is so when my cat is in a room with me and I hear a sound from another room. I will know at the time we are the only living beings in the residence. I decided that the sounds at night had to be the house settling. Houses do settle at night. That can explain creaks and groans. Pipes can cause creaks and groans too. I can’t explain everything I have experienced or witnessed like the shadowy person that appeared in my kitchen when a friend was over. I hear a sound of a mop or broom crashing to the floor during the day. I can’t explain that one either especially when I check the room and nothing has moved. If any of you dear readers have an reasonable explanation for that, then I welcome your comments on this post. I truly do welcome your views.

I believe in polarity and balance. I believe in the light and the dark, logic and intuition, and universal love. I believe all are necessary to maintain harmony. We can’t have light without dark and vice versa. I need sunlight to go to the bank during the day but I need nighttime to perform an esbat under the milky orb of the luminous full moon. (Which reminds me…)

This post sums up my beliefs in the paranormal and why I believe in a balance between logic and intuition. I hope that many people out there can also find their own balance, their own harmony. 

Blessings, Spiderwitch

 

 

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Intuition

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I bought a vintage typewriter today. I had to lug it home in a torrential downpour which was no fun. I did make it home. I love the typewriter. I smudged it with sage to cleanse it of previous energies. I feel like a real writer. Typewriters are an antique today in a world of more advanced technologies. 

I want to talk about intuition. Intuition is an internal part of you that is precious. It is unique in every individual. It can be your most powerful psychic tool you have in your arsenal. It is ok to have smudge sticks, crystals, gemstones, dream catchers and wands. Intuition is your subconscious. 

It is always there, even when you are unaware. It is there in your joy and your fear. Trust me, I have always listened to my subconscious and glad that I have. That warning voice you hear when you debate with yourself to drive down a corner and don’t, then hear about an accident in that area? That was your intuition telling you. Heed it. 

You may have a premonition in a dream. Or you may sense you should avoid confronting two negative looking people and then are glad you did later. It is your warning voice, your own little Jimminy Cricket. You have to learn how to trust yourself, your subconscious. When you are creatively absorbed in a project, you allow your subconscious to emerge and you enjoy your sewing, guitar playing or gardening more. 

Trust in yourself. That is hard to do for some who are not used to it. For your psychic development, it is crucial. When I studied in my class, I had to learn to trust my instincts. If you squelch it out of fear, it will diminish. So be sure to practice. If that seems overwhelming, then try practicing it in small steps till you become accustomed. Do not take huge leaps or expect too much from yourself initially. It is ok to err. You are not flawless. Neither am I. That is ok. 

Today I accepted a ride from a stranger- the husband of the woman who was selling me the typewriter. It scared me to climb into a stranger’s car. It was pouring rain hard. He offered the ride out of kindness. Still, how did I know I would be safe. He drove to the nearest bus terminal. He never harmed me. Still… (I recommend using common sense, too.)  I sensed I would be fine once I saw the terminal. I was scared though. After all, I didn’t know the dude. 

So it can seem terrifying to try to trust in something you can’t see. Believe me, I understand. But who else will believe in you if not yourself? Right? You don’t need to dive into a stranger’s car though to prove anything. That typewriter wasn’t light. 

I smudged the typewriter with sage. I put my hands on it and tried to gain some impressions. I remember the woman was quite pregnant. I saw her in my mind’s eye. I had closed my eyes. I sensed her more than her husband. She did tell me she used it for decoration. You also have to discern from what you think are impressions and what actually are impressions. If this sounds overwhelming, don’t worry. Remember, small steps. 

Blessed Be, Lady Spiderwitch )O(

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